This is going to sound really bad and not very Christian-like of me, but I am just being real with you. Ha! There are times when I see people I know in public and I will completely re-route the way to my destination in order to avoid a conversation. Gasp!! Really, Mae?! Yes, I know, but don’t you tell me for one minute that you haven’t done it before!! Ha! Sometimes it backfires and I run into them anyway which is probably what I deserve. But there are times that I have no desire to answer dreaded questions that I KNOW will come in that conversation. “Are you STILL single?” and/or “You STILL haven’t gotten married?” “What are you waiting for?” I swear, the emphasis they put on the word “still” is so pronounced, it’s crazy! I mean, the dagger hurt when you asked the question, but then the dagger twists and goes a little deeper when you emphasize the word “STILL”. That might be a little dramatic, but I’m just sayin. The last thing I want to do sometimes is defend my marital status. Yes, I am STILL single. No, I’m not seeing anyone. Just haven’t met that guy yet, etc. Anyway, I feel like that is all people see when they look at me sometimes. There goes that 32 year old single chick that has yet to get married. Is something wrong with her? She’s probably too picky. She needs to lower her standards a bit. (NOPE!) You pickin up what I’m puttin down?! I think it’s so easy to get caught up in that description in how others see us. I think we all can relate somehow. Obviously, your situation is going to be different than mine, but I think you can understand where I am coming from. There is SO much more to who you are though!!!
What really matters is how God sees us. To Him, we aren’t defined by our marital status, or by the job that we have, or by our children, or even by our boneheaded past. Let me say that last part again because I feel like someone needs to hear that. YOUR LIFE IS NOT DEFINED BY YOUR PAST MISTAKES!!! To God, we are each, individually different and perfectly loved by Him! You are a child of the King. He created you to do great things! I think when we focus more on how others perceive us, there is a tendency to start believing it. If we focus on it too much, believe me when I say, that Satan will use that to his advantage. The more we give into those thoughts, the more it drains us. That is why it is so important to lean on Jesus! To focus more on what God sees instead of others. Continually talk to Him so you won’t give into those negative thoughts. God sees you as who you truly are…His!! YOU. ARE. HIS.
I do believe that some of us do hide behind these perceptions though. Sometimes it might be easier for others to think whatever they want instead of them actually knowing what is going on behind the scenes. When I am coaching, I love them all, but I tend to gravitate toward the ones that have the attitudes. Weird I know. Probably just got a few eye rolls, because you just thought of a teenager that truly gets under your skin. Ha! But there is ALWAYS more to the story than what you are actually seeing. I am not singling out any of my girls, but I believe they put up that front because they are starving for attention. They would NEVER admit it because they are too prideful, but I truly feel they just want to be loved on. So that’s what I do. I love on them, because they need it. They need to know the love of Jesus and I do my best to share it with them!
God sees YOU! He doesn’t care what others are saying about you. He cares about your walk with Him. He cares about the life that you are living. He knows what’s in your heart! He’s always behind the scenes and He is in front. He knows EXACTLY what is going on!! HE SEES YOU!!
“Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has born? BUT EVEN IF THAT WERE POSSIBLE, I WOULD NOT FORGET YOU! See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands.”